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makoharu co-dependency issue rant.

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Okay.

THIS.

Seriously this this this this is basically the rant I’d been wanting to write for a long time and you’ve addressed pretty much every point.

Especially

I honestly am a little tired of hearing people shout out diagnoses for pairings to try and discredit them, rinharu the abusive and makoharu the co-dendent. heck even reigisa has been labeled as unhealthy.

It makes me wonder, if people who are quick to label these pairings as such really understand the seriousness of destructive relationships. It’s not something you can throw lightly when you don’t like the dynamics of a pairing. A relationship has to meet certain points to really be filed as abusive and co-dependent.

Hurting each other =/= abusive, and depending on each other =/= co-dependency.

Bless. I’ve been in some ship wars before but this is definitely something I hadn’t seen before Tumblr. You can feel the Tumblr influence there… “I want to hate on this ship but Tumblr has taught me that it makes me a bad person so I’m just going to twist this so they’re the bad person for shipping this! Not me for hating on it! Genius!”

There are so many bad ship metas out there that spread reasons to hate on the guise of being objective, they’re not. Some I’ve read were good-intentioned, I’ve seen people actually try to understand the rival ship but failing to separate from their ship bias entirely and ending up writing something to the effect of “right, I’m not hating, I’m just saying there are problems here that I’m blowing out of proportion because I just can’t like this thing and it gets in the way of my other thing”. It’s unfortunate because the more rabid shippers take these things as gospel and a validation for their hate and oh, here we are.

This baffles me especially when it comes to MakoHaru?? I mean yeah RinHaru is (was?) my ship and if you’re calling them abusive and toxic I will call you out on your bullshit, but I kind of understand how people can wildly extrapolate “unhealthy” from “kids hurting each other out of misunderstanding despite the fact it’s the last thing they want”. But MakoHaru is codependent…? How do you take the most supportive relationship in canon and turn it into this? How do you take the most selfless character in canon and turn him in to this…?

I mean the twists in canon you have to make… I’ve seen people base their bs on nothing more than “Haru sometimes wants Makoto to leave him alone in High Speed” (spoiler that’s his attitude with everyfuckingone including Nagisa and of course Rin it’s a Haru trait not a MakoHaru trait) and “oh remember that time in ep 10 when Makoto misunderstood Haru? CODEPENDENT”. You have to basically ignore the fact that Makoto never wanted to quit swimming, yet he let Haru quit, and never said anything about it, then he let Haru go back to swimming when he wanted to, and supported him all the way while barely intervening (hell he felt bad about how much he supposedly pushed Haru but all he did was accept the captaincy). You have to ignore the fact that he lets Haru rely on him as a social shield, yet never dismisses Haru’s attempt at communication or choosing what he wants. When Makoto speaks for Haru he does because he’s the one who understands him the most (doesn’t mean this understanding is infallible ofc that’s their relationship arc, finding out that they have to actually say things to each other), when Haru decides to speak for himself, even if it contradicts him, he always goes with that. You have to ignore the fact that he does his best to repair Rin’s relationship with everyone, including Haru, including himself, don’t dismiss this as an “exception” this is fucking essential. Makoto’s life doesn’t revolve around Haru and his actions are not a ply to put Haru in the same situation.

You have to ignore Makoto’s entire character arc, all of the revelations that are made about how Makoto hid himself from everyone including his best friend just so that they could do what they wanted. Makoto is the opposite of what you’re claiming him to be.

I don’t understand why people are so adamant on trying to judge MakoHaru when they clearly can’t understand Makoto or separate him from MakoHaru… The ship starts with the characters yall.

Anyway I’m ranting and repeating everything you said but basically, thanks for writing this.