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You’re the only person on my dash that ships Connor/Oliver, so I wanted to know your opinion of Connor using his “drug habit” to force Oliver into spending time with him. I had issues with his line this week about “well if I’m not with you whats stopping me from going to a dealer and using”. I’d love for them to get back together, but not for it to be because Connor manipulated Oliver.

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Hi Nonnie!!! You’re in luck, this blog is well on its way to becoming a Coliver temple. Okay so this is going to be long, buckle up.

1. Connor is without a doubt a manipulative little bitch, that is the only way he knows how to interact with other people (except possibly, his sister).

2. The lie about his drug habit has so many layers I need a sub-list.

  • The lie wasn’t born out of a plan to manipulate Oliver into taking him back, it was created in a moment of mania and desperation (because OMG I KILLED SOMEONE doesn’t get you a lot of sympathy and he really needed somewhere sane and safe to calm down).
  • The lie devolved into manipulation as a way to squeeze himself back into Oliver’s life. It’s his crutch, but it’s also Oliver’s crutch. It gives them both an excuse for Conner’s previous behavior so that Conner can keep going back to Oliver and Oliver can keep taking him back (this is deliciously unhealthy).
  • The lie, like all good lies, has a foundation in reality. Connor is an addict, or at least has an addictive personality or addictive tendencies. Addiction may not be his primary diagnosis, but it is probably a co-morbid symptom of his mania. There are any number of actual diagnosis that we could or could not give Connor, but he definitely has episodes of mania and they definitely display as addiction binges (mostly sex).

“Well if I’m not with you whats stopping me from going to a dealer and using.”

This is a creepy and uncomfortable line. Connor and Oliver are both aware it is a creepy and uncomfortable (also a massively cliched) line and it is delivered and received (look at Oliver’s expression) as a joke. A joke in really bad taste, but a joke. Does it serve to solidify Oliver’s protective feelings/behavior? Yes, absolutely, but on a more subtle level. Oliver does not actually think Connor is going to go straight for a dealer if he kicks him out of his apartment. What he probably does think is if he kicks him out of his life he’ll go back to his self-destructive ways. And do you know what? Lie or no lie, that is absolutely true.

So, conclusion? The lie is a many-splendored thing. If it wasn’t for the fact that is actually a lie, it could actually put them on the way to a really good healthy caring relationship. It still could, because people are strange and that’s one thing this show is really good about – it’s honest about the nature of people and how freaking dark and weird they are. Most likely it’ll all blow up in their faces.