Hey 🙂 thank you for sending the message and I’m glad people agree with me on this topic, but of course it’s okay to disagree as well for everybody else.
And I totally agree with you on the power these names hold. When you had dear friend or beloved relative/sibling you are attached to that name and the first association – I think – when hearing it, will be that friend or relative/sibling. It’s like giving a wound not the time to heal, but to tear it open everytime you have to call your child, like you said. It’s not something I would do either. It would actually be a reason for me to never use that name for any child or pet ever, simply to keep the memory of that friend or relative/sibling as isolated from other influences as possible.
I don’t think this treatment of the names really works in the thought of honoring those that died, especially with taking the last names as well. In the end it’s just very confusing. And when I saw the drawing of the second child, I got reminded of Raphael so much that it was almost uncomfortable and then there’s his love for spanish lullabies. It almost felt like CC regretted killing off Raphael and now tried to recreate him.
As always I’m open to discussing the topic. 🙂
Even if I don’t agree with name a child after a relative who recently die, is not unrealistic or uncommon practice. In fact, a lot of people do it cause they feel is a way to honore them.
Even if I would like different names for the Lightwood-Bane babies, I feel that the namesake works for Max (whose name cames for someone who didn’t have enough time to live), but not for Rafael (whose name comes for someone who was in a way, Magnus’s son)
Oh, okay, I didn’t know it was a common practice outside of books as well because I almost never heard of it where I live and only found out about that idea through books. The only exception is that my stepfather as the same name as his father, but that didn’t include his father being dead, so it was just very confusing most of the time.
I still think that wether or not you like it the first name would have been enough. Including the last name as well is a bit of an overkill.
The same reason why my parent’s refused to name our new cat after our old one – it seems inappropriate.
I’m a little miffed about naming kids like that too, you’re not alone 🙂
Yes! We even decided against getting a cat that looked similar to the one that had died. (Charlie had grey stripes and Mikesh is completely black.)
It’s also self-preservation to a degree I would say. I mean, this way you get reminded of the one you lost everytime you see them or hear/call the name.
At least that’s how it is for me. And thank you for agreeing with me. ^^
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